Embrace your Inner Goddess

February 23, 2009

How to Tame a Man’s Wild Child…by being YOU!

Filed under: Dating,Friends,Life,Love,Men,Personal,Relationships,Romance,Sex,Uncategorized,Women — by goddesspower978 @ 4:19 pm

How are you lovely ladies? I had an absolutely exhausting and fun weekend. Friday night I had wine with my brother and his hot male friend at an Italian restaurant. Saturday I had a party in Boston with 8 beautiful women. We ate delicious homemade Indian food and celebrated a birthday. Sunday I celebrated my nieces’ birthdays. We made puzzles, read stories, played hide and seek and ate cake. Between the festivities I was enjoying the men who were interested in dating me.

Men and women screw up. We’re human. Men appreciate a woman who forgives him when he screws up. However, if a woman is too forgiving the wild child in him will take advantage of her kindness. The Goddess politely points out the problem, states what she wants and then lets him take action. No nagging. She’s too busy having fun to fret about him. She sits back and lets him produce.

Today I’m going to share my progress in communicating with men what I want in a date. What I want from a man is a slow courtship. I’m in no rush. I want a man to demonstrate affection, fun, respect and play over time. It becomes a habit with him to treat me like a Goddess. I’ll appreciate and adore this man for making me so happy! Here is the progress with 3 out of 5 suitors:

I finally agreed to a date with “E,” Quick recap. About a month and a half ago I told him I thought he was coming on too strong. I told him what I was looking for in a date. He has come through beautifully.
“Sexy Scorpio” We had a hot intellectual conversation, fun flirtation and he wanted to know when he could see me. He has a tendency to call last minute and I’m NOT last minute girl. I’m booked up this week and I’m going on vacation next week. I’m doing things on my timetable not HIS. I want a man who respects my life and because of that makes plans ahead of time, not last minute. He sounded disappointed that I wasn’t available. I was too, so I stated something fun for us to do. “I would love to talk to you and flirt with you until we do have time to meet.” I’ve given him the appropriate action and I’ll enjoy whatever he produces.
“Leo” did something inappropriate last week and apologized. I liked what he had to say but wasn’t sure if I wanted to start dating him. I nicely but firmly told him that. Then I offered a solution that would make both of us happy: “I’m giving you three weeks to show me that you’re a person I should be dating.” He’s now happily trying to do that. Why did this work with “Leo?”

1. He was sincerely sorry for being inappropriate. He wasn’t sure if there was a way to make it up to me. His words told me he was searching for one.
2. I agreed with him that he was inappropriate.
3. I stated exactly what I wanted in a man: I wanted to date a man who I could get to know slowly, have fun, laugh, play and explore with.
4. I stated the problem…Because of his inappropriate behavior I wasn’t sure that he was that man.
5. I offered a solution. One where he could take action…over time to prove he was “dateable” to me.
6. I’ve made it his choice. All I have to do now is sit back and enjoy what he wants to do for me.

Men truly want to win with women. They want to be our hero, our “rock star.” It’s up to us to get rid of our anger toward them. (Earlier Blog) Then we can communicate calmly and firmly what we want from them. In this scenario we’re both winners!

With Love, Play and Laughter, Goddess

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