A Lesson in Glamour and Seduction

 

 

 

     I love old movies. The glamorous beauties of the era light me up. The playful flirtation and simmering sensuality between the Glamour Goddess and the man of her choice. And I do mean her choice. She chooses the man to seduce. She chooses the man she loves. It’s so fun to see her in action. Wouldn’t it be fun to add a little of her spice, wittiness, sensuality and glamour to our lives? So here we go. Our assignment today is to discover, learn and enjoy a Seductress in action. Watch how she moves, talks, plays and enjoys each man. She even plays with a mans’ resistance to her. She calls men on their BS in a soft, firm and seductive way. She lets him chase her.

     Rent the movie “Gilda,” or watch it on Netflix. It’s full of chemically charged sexuality. The first scene Rita Hayworth appears in is a lesson in flirtation and owning your power. Mr. Munsen introduces Johnny to his wife. Mr. Munsen opens the door to their bedroom and says:

“Gilda…are you decent?” Watch his face. The underlying thought seems to be…God…I hope not. We see a flip of gorgeous soft hair…it’s Gilda. She says:

“Me?” She says it full of play and sensuality.

She sees there is another man. The moment is broken, but she never forgets her power. She slowly pulls the sleeve back over one bare shoulder. Slowly…all eyes on that bare shoulder. The other shoulder stays bare. The shoulder closest to the men.

“Sure, I’m decent.” She’s annoyed…she knows she is being “shown off” by her husband. Is that annoying her, or is it something else? We find out later.

There is a huge flirtation between Johnny and Gilda in that scene. They don’t take their eyes off each other. Gilda says she wants all the employees to approve of her (Johnny is one of Mr. Munsen’s employees) When she finishes that statement, Johnny swallows. Hard. Would he LOVE that approval from her? Study this scene and see the Queen of Seduction in all her glory. Rita Hayworth is the definition of intoxicating sassiness when she tosses her hair back and innocently says “Me?” when the men enter the room. That is a character who knows her power over men. She had men crazy in love with her.

Enjoy! In Love and Seduction, Goddess

 

© S Stevens Life Strategies

 

It’s Glamour Week, Beauties!

Ahhhh….Glamour.  That lovely luscious Glamour Diva that pulls out all the stops in the name of her beauty. She tantalizes, seduces and with a bat of her lashes gets her every desire.

 

She’s probably the last thing you’re thinking of today. After all, you just came off a long weekend full of celebrating, barbeques and relaxing. It’s a Tuesday that’s really a Monday and you are busy! Career, kids, errands, commuting. Some of you are probably reading this and thinking: Really Goddess, did you sniff too much fresh air this weekend? And you know what? For all of you out there thinking I’m a little crazy with this glamour stuff first thing in the morning? I think it’s cute. It makes me smile. Remember my Destin story from Miami? If I can work Destin in the name of fun and pleasure, can you maybe, just maybe bask in a little of your glamour today?

 

And I mean just a little taste. Some of you may want to go full out. And I humbly applaud you!!! Like fun, flirting and loving every inch of you, glamorizing takes practice. But what fun! Here’s your week to play with your gorgeous self. Experiment and discover what makes your inner fashionista purr. Here are a few ideas to get you started:

 

1. Take some lip gloss, lipstick or even chap stick out of your purse and work it right now. Admire your self in the mirror as you put it on. Seduce yourself in the mirror with it!

2. Spritz yourself with your favorite perfume that you only wear for “special occasions.” Because every moment you are alive you ARE a special occasion.

3. Take a few moments to enjoy yourself being the heroine in your favorite book or movie.

4. Eat something really glamorous: Brie, drink champagne or nibble on Belgium chocolate.

5. Take a few extra minutes tonight to take care of your beautiful self before you go to bed. Use your favorite body moisturizer, spritz on some shimmer, brush your hair and savor the feel of it.

6. Buy yourself flowers and put them by your bed.

 

For extra credit: Bring something to work with you tomorrow that makes you feel fabulous. Those Chanel sunglasses, that bright red lipstick, a diva scarf. Whatever! Listen to your inner diva and let her run a little wild.

 

As always, I eagerly await what you discover during this “experiment with glamour.” And if you have yummy ideas? Please share with everyone! Love and a big red lipstick kiss, Goddess

 

Fun…Time For A New Ritual?

I’m the director of an improvisational comedy group called Rebels Without Applauze. Before every show we do what we call “warm ups.” The warm ups are designed to get rid of the stresses of the day. Warm-ups get us into the mood to really play with each other on stage. Trust me: improvisational comedy is tough. You never know what input the audience is going to give you. We’ve gotten everything from scientific terms we’ve never heard of to German Porn. LOL. You have to honor yourself and the audience by being in a frame of mind to play your cute butt off.

I was thinking about this. Fun and play. It really gets you in a very creative “I can handle anything mode.” So why don’t we have “fun” rituals in our lives? We have them for our bodies, work, how we apply make-up, put our kids to bed. Why not for fun? Especially when it puts you in such a great state of mind? It’s hard for us to make time for fun because we have so many responsibilities. Hmmmm…so will the responsibilities we have run smoother if we add a little fun and play into the daily mix? I know it helps our improv group and its responsibilities for our shows.

Think of how you feel after you’ve tickled someone. Really tickled and had a fun frolic with your kids, nieces/nephews or your lover. You’re all dewy, glowy and so HAPPY! Tickling and laughing make you feel good. The “happy” spreads to those around you. It begins to pour out of you and everyone around you like a burning erupting volcano. (Wow…that coffee really got my metaphor on today!)

The easiest way to start this fun party is with yourself. You always have time to brush your teeth, right? So why not a little nibble of fun? Here are some ideas to add a little fun to our day. Let’s develop our “fun” muscle!

 

1. We have already discussed one of my favorites: Tickling Match

2. Rediscover something you have always loved to do and make time for it. It could be as simple as taking a few minutes to enjoy the ocean or as involved as a lengthy craft project to savor.

3. Anything that involves chocolate is always fun for me.

4. Dancing away! Find an appropriate song to celebrate your fears, sensuality, joy, etc.

5. Go find a pet store and enjoy the puppies or kitties. Bring one home to savor all the time.

6. Make a collage of all your favorite things to do. It’ll be your “Fun Dictionary.”

7. Have a party with your girlfriends. Dance, feed each other, decorate yourselves and savor each moment.

8. Put bright red lipstick on and kiss your bathroom mirror. Leave it for you ( and whomever else ) to enjoy.

9. Meditate with candles, incense and sensual music. If you’re like me…don’t beat yourself up when you can only handle a few moments. Just enjoy the ambiance.

 

I would love to hear about your “fun ritual” and share it here with this amazing community of women. Yay fun!!!! Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

 

 

Question for all Lovely Ladies?

I was overwhelmed by a huge desire! For as many women possible to share one thing about themselves. So here we go:

What, lovely reader is your most favorite thing about you?

Let’s revel in that one thing about you today.  If you share I will share right back!

Breathlessly awaiting your response!  Love, Goddess

Mmmmmmm…Miami Part Two!

Contented Purr! Saturday night was so delicious. It started at the Dilido Beach Club with appetizers, tropical ambiance, food, drink and the handsome talented Top Chef Jeff. The parties started at 8 PM…

The first party was at this gorgeous hotel. Palm trees and sand…all by the pool. The DJ played all those kicky songs that just beg you to dance. And did I ever! I even hopped up on this makeshift stage and shook it! So much fun. I met two new incredible women. One from Boston and another that came all the way from Belgium to party with us in Miami. (That’s a 21 hour travel day!)

The next party was on the roof top of the Gansevoort resort. More palm trees, another gorgeous pool an even better DJ (was that even possible?) and the full moon. The moon was so bright it lit up the entire rooftop. A group of us shared our desires while dancing to the music in a circle. We attracted the attention of two women who wanted to know what we were doing. We told them and asked if they wanted to join us. One did, but the other was uncomfortable. So the one who wanted to passed on our offer because of the discomfort of her friend.

That’s right ladies, being really playful, pleasured, open and flirtatious can be downright intimidating for some. We were pushing pleasure, remember? For some in our group, just getting on the plane and participating was “pleasure” enough. Others in our group pushed the pleasure envelope even beyond my capacity. What we can learn? Whatever pleasure you can handle at the moment is perfect. Each time you take a bite of pleasure you will be able to do more the next time. And the next and the next.

Sunday was more beach fun. A wonderful man taught us how to surf/paddle on this huge boat thingy. (Had too much fun to remember the specifics! ) And was he ever hot! He had the most amazing physic and a thoughtful, patient personality to go with it. His friend gave us foot massages all day!

The next morning it was time to fly back. Sigh! On the way to the airport my girlfriend Mary Ann and I shared a cab with super hot Franco. He’s a romance novel cover model and professional wrestler. He was the perfect guy to enjoy for the rest of the trip. He asked to be my boyfriend. He handled my bags for me, helped me in and out of the taxi and escorted me to my gate. When I started calling him “snuggle bunny,” he loved it. I saw one of his you tube videos when I got home. He was doing all those horrible wrestling things. But I knew the truth. Tough wrestler on the outside. On the inside he was thoughtful, loving and a gentleman.

So what did I learn?
1. I can party with chafing and foot pain! LOL.
2. Being totally pleasured and open can be really scary for people you meet. I won’t take it personally and just play with their fear.
3. Being truly fun and flirtatious gets you free stuff!
4. Even though they look and act tough on the outside, men are really thoughtful, sweet and oh so willing to please women.
5. Whatever pleasure you can handle at the moment is perfect. Just enjoy the moment.

Thank you so much! I wish for every woman who reads this to feel the amazing ecstasy that I felt in Miami. I wish for us all to bring this to our lives and those around us every day!!

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Mmmmmm…Miami Hotness Part One

I’m back. So many stories. So much to be thankful for. I’m grateful to have this space to do it in. To share it with you. A place where there is no judgement or competition among women. We support each other, cheer each other on and hold each other when we are overwhelmed with joy, fear, tears, or cannot take one more ounce of fun. Let’s start the Miami party.

We get there on Friday and of course it’s beautiful. I never made it to the beach that day because there was so much fun shopping and eating to do. Every year on Friday night we have a party on the rooftop of this gorgeous hotel. Wonderful DJ, yummy drinks, waterbeds to sink into and major amounts of guy eye candy!

And I couldn’t make it. Do you want to know what the Universe gave me to challenge my “fun” muscle? Chafing of my inner thighs so bad I could barely walk. (Combination of luscious thighs, humidity and tons of walking will do that for you) So here I am in South Beach. The goal is for us to push our pleasure—and I can’t walk. And to kick it up one more notch…as Emeril would say, I’m medicating my thighs with the super hot diaper ointment Destin. That made me feel SO sensual and sexy. LOL. I knew what I had to do. I had to “party” it. I didn’t want to. I wanted to moan, whine and dramatically lament. But if I can’t find a way to have fun with this, how am I supposed to be achieving my goal? I want to infuse everyone with joy, laughter, pleasure and play. I want to make fun and pleasure what we all live for.

So in honor of that “fun goal” I walked all over Lincoln Street, the boardwalk and more. I thought about the fun once I got wherever I was going. I had a wonderful dinner, and then went to bed. I could party tomorrow. There were 2 parties scheduled on Saturday Night.

Saturday was spent at the beach. We skinny dipped. We cheered the women who were body conscious for taking off their tops. We had a wonderful man who offered to spend the day giving us massages. (He even brought a table!) We frolicked and shared deep desires together. We pretended to be Ursula Andress coming out of the surf. We took sexy photos of each other, drank pina coladas and oh so much more. The chafing got a bit better in the healing ocean waters.

One of my desires was to have a gorgeous man cook me dinner. I found out the really hot guy from Top Chef, Jeff McInnis’ restaurant was a block from where we were staying: The Ritz Carlton Dilido Beach club. They had a full moon party with delicious tapas and his signature drinks were only $7.00. (Bargain in Miami) I was so there Saturday night. I wanted the mojito that he made on the show. It wasn’t discounted…but I got it for free! Yay! It’s a Cucumber infused Mojito and it was delicious. I got it for free by having fun with the super hot hostess. It pays to flirt and not compete with women, ladies! (Flirt with Everything Not Just the Men Blog)

Everything was delicious. Then I got my picture taken with Mr. Hottie himself. And you know what the best part of it was? Yes, he was gorgeous and friendly about the whole thing, but it was the unexpected: Before the picture was taken, he put his arm around me. Not in the “let’s get this over with way.” He pulled me into his body, in that way we women love: firmly, strongly, closely. Sigh! So hot. So we are standing there while my friend, Mary Ann is taking our picture. And he asked me where I was from, I told him and then I said: “I came for your Mojito.” ( Which is true…but I made it sound so naughty which wasn’t my intention! Or was it??? ) He laughed, we smiled at each other and made eye contact. Oh so yummy!!!! I will be posting a link for this when I figure out how to do this with my new camera.

I managed to work that Destin! Yay me! And yay you for every similar challenge you face with fun, ladies!!! Love, Goddess

Next: My Miami boyfriend…the Romance Novel Model!!!

© S Stevens Life Strategies

My Upcoming Adventure in…

In a few days I will be descending upon Miami South Beach with over 100 women. Every year we go to relax, play and research what makes us smile. We find what lights us up in the most organic sense. It’s not just about men: although there are always plenty for us to enjoy. It’s about relaxing, receiving and being completely in the moment. We take a few days to stop. We just play and don’t over think. And magic happens.

Our senses awaken as we try new exotic drinks and food. We discover new tastes and activities. The sultry heat, warm sunshine, exotic drinks, delicious food and gorgeous water take over our senses. We remind each other to relax and do the most pleasurable thing we would want at that moment. We savor. It may be something as interesting as a mud bath, parasailing or skinny dipping. It could be as simple as writing a wish in the beach sand and watching the waves wash over it, sipping a pina colada or one of my favorites, a nap in the warm sun.

How about you? You don’t have to be going to Miami this weekend. What would you absolutely love to do this weekend? In a couple hours? Right now?

What would give you a full-bodied smile right now?

Take a moment with me. I’m your Fairy God Mother and I just bobbed you over the head (gently) with a “Whatever you desire wish.” Close your eyes. Wish. Savor and Enjoy.

Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies

Multiple Men Adoring You…Ready?

How many of you out there would love multiple men adoring you? It’s lots of fun and a lot of work in order to prepare for these experiences. It involves a lot of understanding, playfulness, patience and being in your ultra pleasured womanly state. Last night I enjoyed the attention of 3 men and we will discuss details. But first: I was able to accomplish enjoying the attention of all these men because: I knew it was a big night (Seeing Perfect Kiss) and planned for it:

1. I took the time to make sure I felt amazing before I left. I worked out hard that day, polished my toes, got my hair blown out and savored getting ready. I chose everything that made me feel beautiful. Gorgeous purple dress with neckline that plunged just so, make up and hair that lit me up. I wore my favorite heels. I applied perfumed body shimmer. I felt beautiful, sassy and serene.
2. When that slight charge of nerves visited, I remembered the reason I felt that little jolt of fear was because I cared. Remember…fear is a clear indicator you’re heading in the right direction. (Fear blog)

Around 5 pm I begin getting texts from Kiss. He’s still at work, needs to set back the time, wants to reaffirm where we meeting etc. It all becomes a bit jumbled and I hate texting so I call him to get the details straight. He seems stressed and exhausted, but I don’t take this personally. It has nothing to do with me. When he says “I have to warn you I only got 4 hours of sleep last night and I’m not all here,” I said calmly…”Would you like to reschedule?” Because really, ladies. Do you want to spend time with a man who is completely exhausted? It would be better for us both to reschedule. He says “No…I don’t want to put off seeing you.” “Okay, then,” I say. I made it his choice to continue with our evening.

On the way to our meeting point I start getting phone calls from “E.” We are meeting at the beach this weekend. He really wants my attention, which is so cute. But I’m driving in an unfamiliar town, there are pedestrians everywhere and my GPS is barking orders at me. Not pleasurable. I finally manage to interrupt him and say warmly my situation and that I will call him right back.

I park at my meeting destination with Kiss. The phone rings. It’s Kiss giving me an ETA. I thank him. I call “E” back. He so wants to talk to me. He is going on and on about things to impress me. I laugh at this to myself because it’s flattering. I tell him in a warm playful manner that I’m meeting a friend, I really appreciate his thoughtfulness regarding our upcoming date, look forward to seeing him, but I really must go.

I go into the pub, and look about. Where do I sit and wait? Right ahead of me the bar has a very attractive man sitting at it. The space next to him is unoccupied. Perfect! I find a gorgeous intelligent man to chat with while I wait for Kiss. We’ll call him “R.”

Kiss arrives and sees me in deep, fun conversation with “R.” Introductions. Then on to Kiss. Fun, intelligent playful and sensual conversation. I really enjoy him. Knowing him so well I know that he is nervous and trying to be ultra cool (Excellent sign when they play it so cool ladies. It means they do not want to screw up!) Desire: For Kiss to take me to a baseball game. I told Kiss my desire to go to a baseball game. Will he produce? We’ll see.

At the end of the night Kiss leaves to go to the restroom. I start talking to R again. Lovely conversation. Very Yummy man. Kiss comes back. I’m talking to R, don’t want to interrupt him, and Kiss is uncomfortably waiting next to me. I listen to “R,” glance at Kiss and put my hand on his arm as a gesture that says: I’m on my way back to you, hold on.

I go back to Kiss and we chat. He was uncomfortable with the other attention. Poor Baby. R gets up to leave, we say goodbyes and more chat with Kiss.

It’s time to leave. Kiss pays the tab. I thank him and smile.

We get up to leave and he walks me to my car. I say “You’re such a gentleman for walking me to my car,” and smile.

The critical point…will we or won’t we kiss? Truly and honestly—I don’t want to yet. I would enjoy it if we did, but I want to take things slowly, savor the chemistry and play play play. So we didn’t kiss. Yet.

This morning I emailed Kiss and thanked him for treating me like a Goddess.

So let’s review:
1. Whenever there is a big night, take extra care of yourselves ladies. This is on top of loving yourself daily. ( I know this feeling good is such work…lol)
2. Practice by taking my 7 day Love Affair With You and notice the results.
3. Appreciate the men around you. Thank them, enjoy them, communicate what you want in a warm and playful manner.
4. If you start to feel a bit “overwhelmed” with all the attention, laugh at it, and refocus by doing a quick Beauty Ritual (See my blog on this) Beauty rituals can really help you refocus on you. Or just take a deep breath so you can catch up!

I would love to know what you think about all this. If you would like to discuss more in depth, email me here or at goddesspower978@hotmail.com. Love, Goddess

© S Stevens Life Strategies